Purposeful Faith

Why Remorse

Just now, as I took a walk, I saw a twisted piece of plastic on a telephone line. Oddly, it was mangled and wrapped around the phone line in a way that seemed to make no sense.

This is how my mind is when I make a mistake. Remorse wreaks havoc in my mind, until I’m in a twisted mess of: I’ll never be good enough. I always make mistakes. I can’t get anything right. I’ll always offend God.

God doesn’t intend for us to live mangled; Jesus came so we could live untangled from shame.
So, what’s the problem with me?
The story of Judas, the betrayer of Jesus, has a little to say on this subject matter.
When Judas, who had betrayed him, saw that Jesus was condemned, he was seized with remorse…and returned the thirty pieces of silver to the chief priests and the elders.
“Remorse gripped Judas and he returned the money.” (Mt. 27:3)
Isn’t it amazing that he returned the money and was remorseful? Amazingly, this wasn’t enough.
Then, Judas said, “I have sinned,” he said, “for I have betrayed innocent blood.” (Mt. 27:4)

He even realized his sin.
The priests replied, “What is that to us?” they replied. “That’s your responsibility.” (Mt. 27:4)

I only wish He’d talked to Jesus. 
“…Then he went away and hanged himself.” (Mt. 27:5)
Remorse without repentance kills us internally. It leaves us in a balled up mess of self-condemnation, ridicule, embarrassment and shame. It kills our insides and has even been known to take a life.

What do you need to repent of? What do you need to release to God? What do you need to finally get over, so it doesn’t destroy you? The price Jesus paid is enough to cover over any mistake you’ve made. There’s nothing His grace won’t cover. Isn’t it about time you finally receive that grace and forgiveness too?

“For I will forgive their wickedness and will remember their sins no more.” (Heb. 8:12)

“Therefore, since we have been made right in God’s sight by faith, we have peace with God because of what Jesus has done for us. Because of our faith, Christ has brought us into the place of highest privilege where we now stand and confidently and joyfully look forward to sharing God’s glory.” (Ro. 5:1-2)

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Kelly, a fun-loving, active and spunky mom of two rambunctious toddlers, spends her days pushing swings, changing diapers and pursuing the Lord with all her heart. Called a "Cheerleader of Faith", Kelly's greatest desire is to help women live passionately, purposefully and unencumbered for the Lord.

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  • Last night I came across a tv show that was so emotionally disturbing: two of the characters have to now live with wrenching guilt and remorse after another character commits suicide (apparently) because of their actions. I was still thinking about it this morning and then your post popped up in my email. It applies to this drama’s situation, but of course (cause it’s tv) we won’t see the healing balm of Jesus’ sacrifice applied to it. Daily, I am so grateful for His mercy. Thank you Kelly for a beautiful reminder of the sacrifice He made that brings us peace.

  • Thankyou! It’s happened again, your messages in recent days feel like you are speaking God’s words directly to me. I’m dealing with remorse, regret, self doubt, feeling inadequate, sad, tired, overlooked.
    I have been praying this morning on 1 Peter 6-9, joy in trials. And then read your message. It’s all coming together.
    There is nothing His Grace won’t cover! I confidently and joyfully look forward to sharing God’s glory!
    Thanks for candidly sharing your experiences. Love and blessings to you.

  • Thanks for this great message and blog. I have also dealt with many questionable decisions in life, and remorse is certainly a big part of regular thoughts. Sometimes you just have to tell yourself “is whats done is done, now how do you move foward”, all you can do is find ways to avoid making the same mistakes but at the end we are all fallible humans. Blessings!

  • This is what I am going to do. Remote lasts as long as you let it. I can’t control the other person. So I can go on -healed and living! Again- because of Jesse! What the other person does is their issue. Amen!!

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