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Changing When You Hate Change

Hate Change

After college, I fled my home on the east coast and rushed to a west coast adventure. My new boss and I flung around the sun-soaked city streets of L.A. in a black Mercedes. I felt free. I felt ready. She was teaching me the ropes of sales and how to close the deal with men who were in high positions. I was a sponge – ready to learn, ready to train and ready to acquire knowledge – but, her instruction? It stopped me…

“Kelly,” she said, “You just do what you have to do – to get the deal done.” 

My heart sunk. I got the subliminal message.

Smiling (and with what I am now convinced was a – wink?), she pulled next to my dream car – a luxury red-hot convertible. It shined succulent. She looked at me and said, “Bite it.” No, she didn’t say that, but almost, she said, “Kelly, if you want that car, it is yours…”

Hate Change

And there I was. I stood on the cliff of decision.

Would I welcome change or would I be changed forever by not changing jobs?

Change is interesting. It is like an unwelcome demand by someone (namely God) to do something I am not ready for. It almost always comes at the wrong time – and I’m almost always resistant.

Are you resistant?

Usually, a silent warning lays right under its surface…“You better do something about this or you are going to get hurt….”

Pondering this, and gazing out the window, I couldn’t help but think that God doesn’t demand nature change seasons. It is gradual and seamless. Natural. Welcome, even. 

What is the difference?

What am I missing?

Author Daniel Strain, from Science News, describes nature’s budding process like this: “The buds suck up water, growing until they are ready to explode. The petals and sepals – the outer, greener portion of a flower gradually invert, then peel open like a banana and form a blossom.”

Hate Change

4 Things That Buds Know About Change That We Don’t:

1. The buds “suck up” water. Do I? Do you? Do you drink in the living water of love so that when you hit the desert you don’t think it’s your new home?

“But whoever drinks the water I give them will never thirst.” Jo. 4:14

2. The buds are ready to “explode”. If I fill myself up with truth about what God will do, I will much more be able to explode into life change.  I just remember: 1.) God is with me 2.) God is for me 3.) He always has a very, very good plan.

3. The outer portion of “the petal turns inward”, before turning outward. Changing hurts; this is why you draw in. You have to cover, pray and seek God, before you can bust out and shine.

Hate Change

4. They peel open “like a banana”. Getting peeled like a banana, well, it doesn’t sound too buttoned-up and managed. It sounds humble. Willing. Receptive to what is happening. It sounds much like losing control, in trust, that God is in control.

God is consistent. Nature knows. It awaits the beautiful about to explode from barren.

Maybe we become like nature?  We might then be able to believe and proclaim, “Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows.” James 1:17

Hate Change

We will know – all will turn out okay…

We just suck up water, explode with truth, turn in and then – unfold into the new creation that, God, all along, has been working us into.

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Kelly, a fun-loving, active and spunky mom of two rambunctious toddlers, spends her days pushing swings, changing diapers and pursuing the Lord with all her heart. Called a "Cheerleader of Faith", Kelly's greatest desire is to help women live passionately, purposefully and unencumbered for the Lord.

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6 CommentsLeave a comment

  • Shined like a biblical apple….I’ve been there far too many times! Oh, how the world can be so shiny. Change is so tough. Some days I wish God would just scream, “Take a left, not that right!” His voice is so quiet. It’s better that way, I suppose. I have to do my best to be still, to wait for the world to quiet all around so that I can hear. Discipline…I think it would all be better in that convertible you mentioned, haha!

  • Wow, what a story! I needed this today because I’m on the brink of a big change: moving back to the MidEast May 20th! I could choose to stay in my more comfortable life here, or I can choose the CHANGE: moving back to where God is calling me, now that my God ordained time in Dallas is over! I’m going with the change. 🙂

    Blessings to you, friend. Happy Mother’s Day!

  • Love this post! Great insight and wisdom. Love the metaphor with the budding flowers. A beautiful picture!!

  • Hello, your post about “taking your hands off everything and letting God bloom it all” really resonates with me so much! I read Nancy Missler last year, her King’s High Way series with The Way of Agape, Be Ye Transformed and Faith in the Night Seasons and it literally changed my life, I had been sick for 14 years and the sickness was simply reversed. One of the things it taught was about the “dark night of the spirit” and I think I’m really going through this. I spent a whole year trying to restart my life and cultivate everything: health, relationships, job, studies and everything failed in a shocking way. Now, I guess the only thing I can and must do is give up, but how much? Stop moving at all? Stop eating? It seems obvious I’m very close to the end of the process but I don’t know what final steps to take. What I noticed was how 2 or 3 times, it was so obvious that when I gave up on my attempts, things just came to me and in such a better form, it was wonderful.

    God bless you all in Grace and Peace, according to the doctrines of Grace!

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